Tuesday, 1 July 2014

I’m leaving my kids for my PRISON LOVER: 'He did a terrible crime but he’s a changed man'

A MUM has decided to abandon her three young children to move almost 5,000 miles away - so she can marry a dangerous US prisoner
prison, penpal, lover, marry, LAG LOVER: Jennifer is leaving her three children to marry her prison pen pal Chris [ALBANPIX.COM]
A British mum is leaving her kids to make a new life with a dangerous US prisoner she met online.
Jennifer Butler is abandoning her three young children - all under 10 years old - and flying 5,000 miles to marry Christopher Mosier, 23.
She plans to set up home with him when he is released on parole in September, leaving her kids with their dad.
“Leaving my children is not an easy thing to decide to do. I know some people will think I’m abandoning them," she told The Sun newspaper.
"But for me to do that, it must mean what I have with Chris is important.”
prison, penpal, lover, ABANDONED: The mum will leave Tyler, eight, Tristan, seven, and Mia, four, to move to the US [ALBANPIX.COM]
“When we started writing to each other there was instant chemistry. Every time I got a letter I was like a kid at Christmas”
Jennifer Butler
The single mum, who gets more than £8,000 of taxpayers' cash to help towards her rent and council tax, has spent £3,000 in just six months visiting Texas where her lover is serving 15 years for armed burglary.
Yet she can only afford to take her children - Tyler, eight, Tristan, seven, and Mia, four - on caravan holidays in the UK.
The 29-year-old met Christopher through a website where pen pals write to American prisoners.
But despite the fact she is leaving her children and moving country, Jennifer insists she is not choosing her lover over her kids and claims they will be reunited.
prison, penpal, PENPAL: Jennifer started writing to Chris in July 2011 after seeing his profile on the website WriteAPrisoner.com [ALBANPIX.COM]
She said: “I know my kids will be in good hands without me. I don’t let them go without.
“I’m doing this for our future because I want us to be a family. I need to set up a life out there for us and I’ll do whatever I can to get them over with us as soon as possible.
“I am devoted to my children but they deserve a happy mum too. This relationship will be for me but the life I build is going to be for all of us.”
The mum, from Suffolk, started writing to Mosier in July 2011 after seeing his profile on the websitewriteaprisoner.com.
His profile revealed he had been sentenced to 15 years in 2009 for burglary of habitation with deadly conduct and drugs charges.
He was part of an armed gang that had burgled a house and had previous convictions for possessing cannabis.
Jennifer says she felt an immediate connection to him and was impressed by his honesty. 
The part-time retail worker said: “I was really intrigued by his profile. It was different to the rest.
“Most of the guys were posing with their tops off and it was in your face. But his was articulate and he was open about his crime.
“I saw him as a young guy who was looking for companionship.
“When we started writing to each other there was instant chemistry. Every time I got a letter I was like a kid at Christmas.”
They started writing up to three letters a week and developed a strong friendship, but in June 2013 Jennifer suddenly stopped receiving letters. 
Jennifer said: “I started to lose it. I went to a dark place. I felt heartbroken. I would sit on the couch and cry and read his old letters.
“Then a month later I received a letter from him. He told me that the prison had been on lockdown so he had not been able to get stamps to write to me.
“When I got the letter I realised I was in love with him and the letter made me admit it to myself. I couldn’t bear to lose him."
Their relationship turned serious and Mosier started writing letters to Jennifer’s three children. In return, they sent him drawings and cards to decorate his cell.
But their controversial relationship caused a huge rift within Jennifer's family, who feared she was putting her children in danger.
prison, penpal, LOVE LETTERS: The mum-of-three would write up to three letters a week to her lag lover [ALBANPIX.COM]
wedding, prison, WEDDING BELLS: Jennifer visited twice in four months and on her third visit they got engaged [ALBANPIX.COM]
Jennifer, who split with the children’s dad in 2010, said: “I knew people wouldn’t have a good thing to say because he is an inmate. If he was just a guy from America I’d met online it would be different.
“I’ve had people ask why I’m not worried for the safety of my children. That cut me deep. To think that because he’s a criminal my children would be at risk hurt me.
“Others ask why I’m with someone that I can’t be with physically. Of course I get lonely but my heart is with him so deeply that I don’t have a choice.”
But the mum-of-three didn't let the criticism stop her and she started saving from her monthly £550 wages to visit Mosier at his US jail.
Her first visit was in October last year. But Mosier had been in a fight with another prisoner so had his visiting privileges taken away meaning they had to speak through a glass screen.
“We weren’t allowed to touch because he was a maximum security prisoner at the time," said Jennifer. "We had a glass window between us and had to talk through a phone. When I saw him walking down the corridor I knew our love was real. We talked for four hours and it felt like I’d known him all my life.”
Jennifer visited him twice in just four months and on her third visit in April, the couple got engaged. Mosier proposed by tying a piece of grey string around her finger while in the visitors’ room.
prison, family, FAMILY: The 29-year-old insists she will be reunited with her children once she is settled in the US [ALBANPIX.COM]
“He held my hand and said how much I meant to him and he got emotional. He never usually does," said Jennifer.
“He then said he wanted to make me happy and asked me to marry him. I just broke down. I said of course I would.”
Mosier is up for parole in September and the couple plan to marry when he is released.
Jennifer will leave her children with their dad, who supports her decision, and relocate to the US to start her new life.
She said: “My children are excited about eventually moving over there. As kids, they won’t realise about me not being around until I’m actually gone.
“But it’s fine because they know I’m going over there to find us a house and to sort out their schooling. The main thing is that they’re excited to get to meet Chris.
“I know he did a terrible crime but he’s a changed man.
“He’s going to make a wonderful husband and a brilliant stepdad to my children.”

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